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The 5 Love Languages

During my marriage preparation classes, my priest told me and my now wife about the 5 Love Languages. He advised us that we should take the quiz, and that way we can learn more about ourselves, and how to interact with each other. And let me tell you, it has worked wonders for our marriage.

The 5 Love Languages is based on the research of Dr. Gary Chapman. What are the 5 Love Languages you ask? Words of Affirmation, Quality Time, Receiving Gifts, Acts of Service and Physical Touch. Each category describes the way in which we most feel loved.

Words of Affirmation is basically anything that would be a compliment, such as “I Love you”, “You look beautiful”, or “I’m really proud of you!”. Basically saying nice things.

Receiving Gifts can be as simple as a note from you spouse, a surprise candy bar or even just little surprises left around the house.

Acts of Service would be running errands for your spouse, doing chores that your spouse doesn’t like to do or other similar things.

Quality Time obviously would be spending time with the other and physical touch can range all over the place.

Each one of us has a primary and a secondary love language. The primary language is what fills up your “love tank” faster, but the secondary love language will also fill up said “love tank”. Knowing what fills up your love tank will help you feel more loved by your spouse when they do those activities. This also works vice versa, you need to do those things that make your spouse feel loved.

Now, this has helped my wife and I to understand each other, and it’s great how it has helped our marriage. For example, after knowing each other’s love languages, we know that when it comes to arguing what not to do. My wife’s primary love language is Words of Affirmation, so when we argue, I can’t fall into the temptation of calling her names, as that will devastate her. We shouldn’t be calling each other names regardless of our love language, but I am now more aware of it.

As society continually tries to push gay “marriage” and to undermine that of traditional marriage, we need to create strong marriages. I feel that knowing your spouse’s primary and secondary love language will do just that.

When you feel loved, you want to share that love. The powers of love can not be held within our own human person, as we are creatures of finite space and possibility, love, in itself, is infinite. This is the reason why when it comes to creating our priorities, no human person, even if it be our husband or wife or children or anybody, should be our number one.

As humans, we only have a finite space to fill with love, though, we have an infinite ability to give love. When we put all of our love into another person, we will crush them. However, the love for God, that is, the love that God gives to us, we can receive, even though it is infinite, because God created us to be able to receive that love that He gives. God, being infinite, can also receive that infinite love that we can give. Thus, it would make perfect sense to love God before all others.

You can purchase The 5 Love Languages at Amazon. You can also find out what your love language is by taking the test here.

Jeff October 3, 2013 Leave A Comment Permalink

DOMA, the Supreme Court, and Moral Relativism

As you have more than likely heard the Supreme Court of the United States has sadly ruled that DOMA (Defense Of Marriage Act) is unconstitutional.

So Much Fail

Of course, many Catholics are heart-broken, and even non-Catholics alike are upset with this ruling as well.

The sad thing is, this shouldn’t be a surprise to us. The gay marriage agenda has been working very hard to make their sin appear normal. Unfortunately, it isn’t normal, and sin isn’t normal.

The Church asks those who struggle with same-sex attraction to remain celibate. That is, to not engage in sexual activity. The thing is, the Church asks all its members to not engage in sexual activity that is outside of there vocation, that is, a single man or woman can not have sex either. A married man or woman can not have sex outside their marriage. This is worth noting because many automatically assume that when the Church asks those who struggle with same-sex attraction to not engage in that behavior, that heterosexuals are exempt and can run around and do whatever. This is not the case and those that do engage in immoral behavior put themselves in dangers of Hell just as equally. Sin is sin.

Over the last 4 decades, the Church leaders, especially in America have failed all Catholics. As I mentioned yesterday, many Church leaders in America, have preached a gospel of moral relativism instead of a Gospel of Truth. If our shepherds would have more of a background and actually call sin sin and not try to be buddy buddy with every single one of their sheep, this ruling probably would have gone the other way.

Cardinal Dolan is correct when he Tweeted that the Court got it wrong. He is absolutely correct. Like I said yesterday, chalk it up when our leaders are right. However, he hasn’t come out nearly as strong as he could have over the last few years in trying to sway the Church and its flock as to why homosexual activity is sinful. I’m not saying that he is responsible for the decision yesterday, as he is only the Cardinal Archbishop of New York, and only serves as the head of the USCCB for 3 years, as this has been a trend for the last 4 decades. Let’s pray that Cardinal Dolan may be invigorated in this decision to pump it up a bit.

Looking at the make-up of the Supreme Court, we have 9 members, of those 9, 7 are Catholic (or at least are called Catholic). The Court passed 5-4 in favor of homosexual activity. As it turns out, Justices Sotomayor (“catholic”), Kagan (“catholic”) and Kennedy (“catholic”) all voted in favor. They all grew up in the time when Catholicism was being watered down and their votes the other day show it.

When you preach moral relativism for several decades, you can’t be surprised when the Supreme Court, the President of the United States, members of the House and Senate and millions of American’s are in favor of unnatural law. The antidote to this, is a dose of Jesus Christ. Until we as a nation submit ourselves to Jesus, we will not succeed in anything that we do.

Jesus, I Trust in You!

To all of you priests, deacons, bishops and cardinals, for the love of God and His Holy Catholic Church, for the sake of all souls, start preaching the Gospel of Christ! Its time to start stirring the pot! Homilies are supposed to be challenging! If they leave for a Protestant denomination that preaches what they want to hear, then they weren’t Catholic to begin with and they have created a god in their own image. You will have to answer to Christ when you die for why you let His teachings get watered down. Don’t let moral relativism be your answer.

God Is Love But Not That Kind of Love

As usual, I’m late to the party on this. Seeing as its Holy Thursday and this news has been going on since Monday. But, in case you didn’t know this and like me live under a rock (hey, its nice and cozy and I don’t have to worry about nearly as much), California’s Proposition 8, which was passed by the citizens of California making homosexual “marriage” illegal, is now up in front of the Supreme Court.

So, as usual in just about anything political that rallies behind the liberal cause, everyone went to Facebook and changed there profile picture to a red equals sign. Because, you know, changing your Facebook profile picture to something actually does something (makes sense right?). Remember the days when people actually made signs and went to their local government center to protest? Oh, that’s too hard, let’s just change our Facebook picture, because that’s pretty much the same thing!

But, in all seriousness, what I’m finding is a new trend. Many people are supporting “marriage equality”. This surprises me to a great deal, considering we have people trying to use morality, religion, and in some cases God. You know the old mantra “God is Love”? That means its okay for two people to do whatever they want with each other in the name of “love”. This gives a whole new meaning to the song “Stop! In the name of love!”

Let me address the true meaning to how God is love, in the reality and truth of this message.

How is it, that so many Catholics and Christians can be for this? The answer is simple enough. They don’t know Christ, they don’t care to know Christ and they don’t want to know Christ. Why this simple answer? The second you even mention that homosexual behavior (not being homosexual) is sinful, the knee jerk reaction is “Judge not, lest ye be judged!…” This quote from Luke 6:37 when Jesus tells us not to judge is used incorrectly, all the time. Its used as basically a “shut up” card. Unfortunately, they then will tell you that we should let them go about and live there lives, all along ignoring Jesus when he told the woman caught in adultery to “go and sin no more”.

Another common misconception you hear is “well…Jesus never spoke about marriage specifically, so really we can do whatever we want!”. Wrong. Jesus is very clear in Matthew 19:4-6 “Have you not read that from the beginning the Creator ‘made them male and female’ and said, ‘For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh’? So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore, what God has joined together, no human being must separate.” (Just a side note, this is also why divorce is not allowed).

On top of this, no one reads the Gospels that speak directly of what Jesus has told us to do (if we are to follow Him, we are to obey Him and do as He says) and uses it to challenge them to grow. When they get to a reading that is too hard or difficult, like those during the Bread of Life discourse in John 6, they walk away saying “this teaching is too difficult, how are we to follow?” So, they create their own interpretation (like Protestants do all the time) and create a God in their own image. Because, you know, heresy is cool!

God is indeed truly love. But love also is having to say ‘no’ from time to time. If a family member is struggling with drugs or alcohol, would it be loving to say to them “oh, I know this is hurting you, but I am going to let you go ahead because it makes you happy and I don’t want to appear to be a bigot, cause you know, God is love!” or is it more loving to say “look, you are causing harm to yourself, you need help”. Obviously the latter. (Did I mention I can read minds and some of you are going “but that’s not the same!”)

It is a good analogy. In both cases, the person is born with a condition. One person is born with homosexual tendencies, the other with a tendency to abuse drugs or alcohol. Just to be fair let’s throw in someone who has a tendency to sleep with women left and right. In each scenario, the respective person has been born with a tendency to do something that is not within human nature. The loving thing with each respective individual, is to point out that what they are doing is wrong and they need help to correct this behavior (yes, even the adulterous male). The success for each individual, would be to not engage in their respective unhealthy behavior. For the adulterous man, to stop sleeping with random women and to either A) marry a woman who he can spend the rest of his life with and commit himself to her or B) live single and not engage in adultery. For the druggie/alcoholic, to stop using these. For the man or woman struggling with homosexual tendencies to A) not engage in these acts and live out life single or B) train themselves to think differently.

Now, what happens if the three people mentioned above fail? Does this mean they are useless and horrible people doomed to Hell? Of course not. As Catholics we believe that the Sacrament of Reconciliation should be used often and confession will get you back on track. This is the most loving realization about Catholicism of all. God loves us so much, that He knows that we will occasionally fail and so He granted us confession so that we can be back in good graces with Him.

Finally, I don’t think the Supreme Court ruling will be in favor of traditional marriage. I am predicting an over turn of DOMA, and the start of legalization of homosexual “marriage” across the country. One by one, we need to educate our friends and family members about God’s Truth, not man’s “truth”.

Jeff March 28, 2013 Leave A Comment Permalink

A Letter From the USCCB

I was just made aware of this via Facebook.

Apparently, the Bishops have asked that all US Catholics begin to pray for Life, Marriage and Religious Liberty. This was made available on the USCCB’s website.

I’m a little upset that I haven’t heard about this until now, as this was posted on December 6, 2012. But, I’ll pass it off with the benefit of the doubt that everyone was busy with Advent and Christmas plans.

Here are a couple of the highlights edited:

1. Sundays after Christmas through Christ the King Sunday, parishes should hold a Eucharistic Holy Hour for Life, Marriage and Religious Liberty.

2. Pray the Rosary daily.

3. At all Masses, offer up specific intentions for the above intentions.

4. Abstain from meat and fast on Fridays.

5. Celebrate the Fortnight for Freedom in June/July 2013.

Again, read the whole thing, it will only take a minute.

Send this to your priest so that he can make announcements.

Priests, make these announcements at Mass.

Jeff January 4, 2013 Leave A Comment Permalink

My Honeymoon

Well…its been 4 months now that I’ve been married, and as usual I have completely failed to even start working on it, so today, you will get to read all about it.

Kathy and I decided that we would wait a little bit before we went on our honeymoon. Partly this was because we wanted to go on a cruise to the Eastern Caribbean and the sail date wasn’t until the week after. So, we stayed home and relaxed on Monday, and went back to work Tuesday and Wednesday.

On Thursday, we got up and went to the airport. Since our Eastern Caribbean cruise didn’t start until Sunday, we decided to enjoy a couple of days and nights down in Fort Lauderdale, Florida, to get the most out of our honeymoon. This was quite enjoyable, we got a hotel that was right across the street from the Fort Lauderdale beach (although to be honest, pretty much all of the hotels were this far away). It wasn’t the fanciest of hotels, but, it was nice. We spent the majority of the time walking around visiting the different souvenir shops, restaurants and such.

The one fun thing that we did do was walk a mile to Mass. There was a Catholic Church about a mile away from the hotel and we decided that we didn’t want to spend the money on a cab, so, we walked it…in about 95+ degree weather. It was ridiculously hot, but it was a fun experience. Mass couldn’t last long enough, mostly because we still hadn’t recuperated from the trek, and we were definitely not ready to walk the mile back. We had drank about a half of a liter of water on the way and didn’t see a water fountain for a refill. I made a comment to Kathy during the Mass that it’s too bad they didn’t have some kind of “tourist ministry” where they give rides to tourists who want to get to Mass. Sure enough, at the end of Mass, Father made an announcement that if anybody needed a ride back, to let them know…score!

We got to ride with a guy who apparently decided to retire down there. He was very pleasant, and as we were talking, it turned out that he was also from Minnesota, in fact, his town was in the Twin Cities, so, not very far from us at all. Talk about living in a small world.

The beach was amazing and so was the water. I’ll admit, I was terrified to go in at first because I was worried that I would be eaten by a shark…I watch too many movies.

Sunday morning we checked out of our hotel room and got a cab to drop us off at the Royal Caribbean Port. It was ridiculous, the ship was massive. It was about 16 stories high, and probably about 16 stories wide, if not wider. Going in to check in, it was incredibly similar to an airport terminal. You have your security check ins, baggage check ins, and such. The difference was though, that they take your picture and give you an ID badge. This badge gets you into your room, it acts as your credit card, it basically replaces everything. It is pretty cool, and as a software developer, I am questioning how come we have not implemented this system in regards to our every day lives. Perhaps, one day, we will.

Once we were allowed to board the ship, we weren’t allowed to check into our room just yet, so, since we were hungry, we went up to a restaurant called “Windjammer Cafe”. This was basically an all you can eat buffet restaurant, and the food was amazing. It wasn’t your typical, cheap buffet food, but it was gourmet. I believe that I had two plates of food, and was definitely ready for more. We walked around the ship and just admired the vastness of it all. It was quite the experience. There were so many activities and different rooms that you could go into. It was awesome to say the least.

We went to our room and we had managed to get an outside room with a balcony facing the ocean. It was quite the view. We locked up everything in our safe, unpacked a little and just enjoyed the atmosphere. Also, the bathrooms were incredibly tiny and the toilets were like little vacuums. It was kind of weird at first.

In the evening we went to the ball room where we were to have dinner each night. Dinner was always served in this room unless you wanted to go to one of the other restaurants.

We met our waiter who was from Jamaica, he was quite the character. We had a lot of fun with him throughout the cruise. We also had an amazing “house keeper” who was the nicest person I have ever met. Upon talking to them, we found out how hard of a job they have. They work 7 days a week, they get paid completely on tips, they are under constant review, and if they get any negative feedback, they get demoted. Their jobs are always on the line. On top of that, they work for 6 months straight, generally away from their families, and the most amazing part of it all, is how they are happy with what they have. Meanwhile, here in America, people demand a “livable salary”, plus full benefits, and they still are unhappy with their job. It gave me a new appreciation for my job, even though I am really happy with my current employer.

Our first port of call was in the Bahamas. We were lucky enough to wake up just as we were making port, and we could see the islands just outside our window. It was beautiful. We even ordered room service, and ate on the balcony. Once we were finished, we went out on a glass bottom boat tour and even saw Nicholas Cage’s house. We took pictures and believe that he might be in them…but we aren’t sure. Afterwards we went to the bazaar and bought souvenirs. The people were very pushy and wanted you to buy something from them before you left. They would keep haggling you until you got a price that you wanted to pay. No window shopping, you pretty much bought it. They were really desperate for the money.

Our second port of call was in St. Thomas. We went to a place called “Coral World” which is similar to a Sea World except much smaller. It was still really cool seeing all of the different types of sea life. We went shopping in the little kiosks that they had and it was a lot different. They’d ask you what you wanted, but everything had a set price. They weren’t as pushy, and didn’t want to haggle.

Our third port of call was in St. Maarten. This time we just went to the beach and relaxed. It was nice to just sit there and take it easy. The water was crystal clear and a pretty royal blue. The sand was also white. Very cool. On the way back to the ship we went to do more shopping and the difference in attitude was very noticeable. They were not pushy at all, everything had a set price, and on top of that, you had to pretty much go up to them if you were interested in purchasing anything. Not at all what we expected.

So, between the three different ports of call, it was obvious the difference in the economy. Clearly, the Bahamas was very poor and destitute, looking to make whatever money they possibly could. St. Thomas was much better off and wanted the business, but they also were not going to step aside on their price. St. Maarten must have been doing very well as they didn’t really seem up to making that much money. Now, I could be completely wrong, but this is just my observation.

The other big thing that I noticed was just the general laid back attitude of the Caribbean. People were not in a rush and were very easy going. It was almost a culture shock when we returned back home and how people are always in a rush and that it is clear that in the United States, time is every body’s master. One thing I learned is that even those who are less fortunate than I am, were generally happier due to their laid back attitude. This could just be an outward show, as in, they are suffering internally, but aren’t showing it, but generally you can see through that if that is the case. Time is a cruel master if you do that. How often do we realize that we are in a rush because we have to be somewhere by 4:30, or we have to be in bed by 10?

Overall, the honeymoon was amazing in general, but I feel that it also taught me that I need to be happy with what I have and to not be so uptight about everything as well. Don’t let time be my ruler, as I will not be very happy if I do. Also, I just need to be happier in general. So what if I’m stuck in traffic? I’m still alive, I have a good life and things could be much worse.

I’ll probably add more throughout as I remember, but seeing as the honeymoon was now 4 months ago, I figure I needed to put this out.

Jeff December 2, 2012 Leave A Comment Permalink

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