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The 5 Love Languages

During my marriage preparation classes, my priest told me and my now wife about the 5 Love Languages. He advised us that we should take the quiz, and that way we can learn more about ourselves, and how to interact with each other. And let me tell you, it has worked wonders for our marriage.

The 5 Love Languages is based on the research of Dr. Gary Chapman. What are the 5 Love Languages you ask? Words of Affirmation, Quality Time, Receiving Gifts, Acts of Service and Physical Touch. Each category describes the way in which we most feel loved.

Words of Affirmation is basically anything that would be a compliment, such as “I Love you”, “You look beautiful”, or “I’m really proud of you!”. Basically saying nice things.

Receiving Gifts can be as simple as a note from you spouse, a surprise candy bar or even just little surprises left around the house.

Acts of Service would be running errands for your spouse, doing chores that your spouse doesn’t like to do or other similar things.

Quality Time obviously would be spending time with the other and physical touch can range all over the place.

Each one of us has a primary and a secondary love language. The primary language is what fills up your “love tank” faster, but the secondary love language will also fill up said “love tank”. Knowing what fills up your love tank will help you feel more loved by your spouse when they do those activities. This also works vice versa, you need to do those things that make your spouse feel loved.

Now, this has helped my wife and I to understand each other, and it’s great how it has helped our marriage. For example, after knowing each other’s love languages, we know that when it comes to arguing what not to do. My wife’s primary love language is Words of Affirmation, so when we argue, I can’t fall into the temptation of calling her names, as that will devastate her. We shouldn’t be calling each other names regardless of our love language, but I am now more aware of it.

As society continually tries to push gay “marriage” and to undermine that of traditional marriage, we need to create strong marriages. I feel that knowing your spouse’s primary and secondary love language will do just that.

When you feel loved, you want to share that love. The powers of love can not be held within our own human person, as we are creatures of finite space and possibility, love, in itself, is infinite. This is the reason why when it comes to creating our priorities, no human person, even if it be our husband or wife or children or anybody, should be our number one.

As humans, we only have a finite space to fill with love, though, we have an infinite ability to give love. When we put all of our love into another person, we will crush them. However, the love for God, that is, the love that God gives to us, we can receive, even though it is infinite, because God created us to be able to receive that love that He gives. God, being infinite, can also receive that infinite love that we can give. Thus, it would make perfect sense to love God before all others.

You can purchase The 5 Love Languages at Amazon. You can also find out what your love language is by taking the test here.

Jeff October 3, 2013 Leave A Comment Permalink

Are You A Christian?


Have you ever been asked by a Protestant, Atheist, or any non-Catholic if you were a Christian? More than likely you have. I bet you even responded with “No, I’m Catholic!” You were probably even enthusiastic about it. But, here’s what you should have said.

“Of course I’m a Christian, I’m Catholic!”

The term “Christian” means literally “Christ-like”. If you are a Christian, you imitate Christ and are Christ-like. Since Jesus Christ founded the Catholic Church and commanded us to obey Him and be like Him, then we are all Christian.

For some reason, “Christian” has been hi-jacked by Protestants and morphed into a label to exclude Catholics from. I do not think this is the original intent, but something that has occurred over hundreds of years.

The next time you get asked if you are a Christian, proudly respond that of course you are, because you are Catholic, and use the opportunity, to spread your faith as this is a perfect opportunity for Evangelization.

Jeff August 20, 2013 Leave A Comment Permalink

Misinterpreted Scripture: Judge Not, Lest Ye Be Judged

Have you ever been having a constructive discussion with someone, whether they be on the opposite side of the political spectrum or even just in disagreement over something relating to Church teaching, and just as you have your partner on the ropes, you hear the famous line, “Jesus said judge not lest ye be judged! Stop judging!”

Its one the most overused and misunderstood of Jesus’ teachings that you will probably find. I say this because this is generally used as a cop out when the debate is being lost and for the most part, most people don’t know how to properly refute this point. The other point I’d like to make, is that, Jesus also says a few things after he says to stop judging as well.

Let’s look at what Jesus actually says:

“Stop judging, that you may not be judged. For as you judge, so will you be judged, and the measure with which you measure will be measured out to you. Why do you notice the splinter in your brother’s eye, but do not perceive the wooden beam in your own eye? How can you say to your brother, ‘Let me remove that splinter from your eye,’ while the wooden beam is in your eye? You hypocrite, remove the wooden beam from your eye first; then you will see clearly to remove the splinter from your brother’s eye. “Do not give what is holy to dogs, or throw your pearls before swine, lest they trample them underfoot, and turn and tear you to pieces. Matthew 7:1-6

“Stop judging and you will not be judged. Stop condemning and you will not be condemned. Forgive and you will be forgiven. Give and gifts will be given to you; a good measure, packed together, shaken down, and overflowing, will be poured into your lap. For the measure with which you measure will in return be measured out to you.” And he told them a parable, “Can a blind person guide a blind person? Will not both fall into a pit? No disciple is superior to the teacher; but when fully trained, every disciple will be like his teacher. Why do you notice the splinter in your brother’s eye, but do not perceive the wooden beam in your own? How can you say to your brother, ‘Brother, let me remove that splinter in your eye,’ when you do not even notice the wooden beam in your own eye? You hypocrite! Remove the wooden beam from your eye first; then you will see clearly to remove the splinter in your brother’s eye. Luke 6:37-42

Okay, we have a lot to go over. So, let’s begin.

Yes, Jesus tells us that we shouldn’t judge, nor condemn, otherwise, we will be judged and condemned, by Our Heavenly Father. This is something that none of us want, though, we will all face when we do die.

But, in Matthew’s account, Jesus tells us that what we measure will be measured out to us. This means that what we are judging them on, we will then be judged on. For example, if I am judging you out of your anger, but I myself have a temper and am angry, then God will judge me harsher for my anger than He would have been before.

Jesus then tells us that we have a wooden beam in our eye, when we are trying to pick out a splinter in theirs. This makes sense, if the problem we are picking on is a much greater problem in ours, then we can’t make their issue a bigger problem than what it may be (whether or not we are right in our judgment (this excludes pointing out people’s sins if it is going to help them achieve Heaven (as we will see in a minute))).

When Jesus tells us though that we are to pick the wooden beam out of our eye and then we can pick the splinter out of our brother’s eye, this goes to show that Jesus wants you to help pick out the sins in other people’s lives as it is necessary for salvation! (I also want to note that if you are pointing out somebody’s sins and you don’t struggle with those sins, then you are rightly pointing out their faults for the necessity of their spiritual well-being).

Luke’s account is similar, Jesus tells us again, not to judge, and similarly what we measure out for others will in turn be measured out for us.

Where Luke differs is how Jesus mentions how the blind can not lead the blind. If we do not know our faith, we can not teach the faith to others, as we may just put the person in a worse position.

Jesus then tells us, that if the disciple becomes well trained then he will be like his teacher. I’m pretty certain that this is Jesus telling us all, that we have the authority, when we properly understand the faith, to correct others when they fall into falsities.

Luke’s account is closed with the similar removal of beams and splinters, which I mentioned earlier.

In short, yes, you can judge someone’s actions as long as 1. It’s an immoral action or something that isn’t for the well-being (whether physically, spiritually, mentally, emotionally, etc) of the person. 2. You don’t struggle with it far worse than they do.

If you made it this far, congratulations! You now understand what Jesus meant by judging and you are no longer allowed to misuse this scripture. Remember, Jesus also said to the woman who was about to be stoned, “Go forth, and sin no more.”

Jeff July 16, 2013 2 Comments Permalink

Jesus Christ is Lord and Savior, Unless You Don’t Believe Then He’s Not…

There is a huge problem within the Church today, especially the Church in America. Many a priest, bishop and cardinal absolutely refuse to preach the truth, because they fear that they may be labeled as “offensive”, “unpopular”, “bigot” or a litany of other words that society would label as rude and insensitive.

As we recall when Jesus gave the Bread of Life discourse in John 6, Jesus told those that gathered that unless they eat the flesh of man and drink his blood, they would not have life in them. Immediately, those who were with Jesus began to murmur among themselves and complained that this was a hard teaching, and who could possibly follow this? They all got up and began to walk away. Jesus immediately said “Guys, wait up, I was only speaking metaphorically, and in parables, and I was only talking about signs!” Those who were walking away turned around and said “Oh, okay Jesus, we totally understand now”. Then everyone was happy again.

Except the last part there I made up. This didn’t happen and in fact as we read, Jesus let them walk. That’s right, Jesus Christ, the Son of God, the second person in the Holy Trinity let those people walk away. He didn’t change the message, but the Truth that He proclaimed was just that, Truth.

Through the history of the Catholic Church, we have seen a great many of saints proclaimed by the Church. There is quite the list. The one thing in common among them is how they have proclaimed the Truth of Jesus Christ and His Church, whether through the life they lived, the life they gave up, how they spoke, how they lived and all sorts of combinations. More importantly, they have all died in the state of grace.

Going back to my original point, many priests, bishops and cardinals, do not preach this faith. The faith that they preach is that of modernism, relativism and popularity. This needs to stop. Right. Now.

This doesn’t entitle any of us to go around and demonize these religious. This does nothing for either side and in fact allows us to fall with them. We need to pray for them as well as point out the error of their ways. Since we live in the era of Facebook and Twitter, we can actually correct them a lot easier than the old days. For those in higher offices where forming a friendship is a lot more difficult, we can Tweet directly to them, we can Facebook message them, we can even email, or if you don’t like technology (or just like that added personal touch) you can write them a letter via the old snail mail.

However, the best way to evangelize is on a one on one basis. If you can, form friendships with your priests, religious, etc. If necessary, you may need to bring more people to help represent the Truth. Unfortunately, if this doesn’t work, you may need to go to the higher up (generally the Bishop) in order to have the issue addressed. Keep in mind, I’m referring to matters that are contrary to Catholic teaching and in accordance with our faith, not minor disagreements over preferential styles.

On a final note, keep track of the times that these religious actually do hit the ball out of the park and score a home run for the side of Truth. Far too often when we encounter a religious who we dislike, we focus more on the negative and ignore the positive. Is it difficult to keep track of the positives when the negatives seem like such big deals (and in many cases are)? Absolutely. But that doesn’t negate the good that may come from the times that Truth is preached.

Stay strong. There are many positive things to look at from the view point of the Church. Yes, there are a lot of negatives, but, when you focus on the negatives for too long, you may lose hope. Focus some on the positives, so that you may be reinvigorated to tackle the negatives. Pray the Rosary, Divine Mercy Chaplets, Memorares, and all sorts of prayers that help us to identify with our Catholic identity. Form a relationship with God the Father, God the Son and God the Holy Spirit. Spend time with your Mother Mary, your confirmation Saint, the Saints in Heaven and the Angels, especially our Guardian Angel.

We have an arsenal at our disposal, and rest assured, Christ formed the Church in 33 A.D. on St. Peter. He said that the gates of Hell will not prevail and they have not. Use the sacraments, and the sacramentals. Become a living saint and inspire those around you.

Jeff June 27, 2013 1 Comment Permalink

When We Idolize Priests: Father Corapi

DISCLAIMER: This is not an update on Father Corapi. This is my own personal views on things that I have observed over the last few months.

When I am muddling through my site stats to see how people are accessing the blog and where they are coming from and what they are searching for, what stands out the most, is generally, Father Corapi in some form or another. They usually view my two posts on him (one being my questioning where he disappeared to and another being a potential siting) and then they leave. I wish they’d view other posts, but I suppose if you want to know about Father Corapi and my blog only has two pages on him…well, there isn’t much draw elsewhere. Anyways…

I still get a few comments here and there on those posts and I want to address something, because I’m unsure why I am getting accused of this (or at least feels like it). Just about every comment that comes through is on how we shouldn’t be judging Father Corapi. I have never implied that we should, in fact, I have encouraged constant prayer for his return to the Church. Nothing judgmental about that. If anything that is the charitable and Christian thing to do.

However, I would like to comment on the people who think that Father Corapi is above the critical line. That is, untouchable to public scrutiny.

We have every right to say that because he has publicly left the priesthood and publicly disobeyed his vows to SOLT and appears to be unrepentant for his sins, that he is in danger of Hell. To ignore these cases, and to then go on to tell others “not to judge” as if everything was a-okay is a travesty. We should pray for Father Corapi on a daily basis. He is not a-okay, he is in danger of Hell because of his actions (and his unrepentant attitude).

Priests are sinners just like you and I. It is far more damaging to the faith when their sin is made public. Its a double-edged sword because we expect them to be perfect, yet, they are not. However, what we know of priests is that they have promised to be faithful to the Church and have given up many things in life. Thus, when they break this vow, it is heart-wrenching.

Let’s be clear on this. We can not say that he is going to Hell. We can say though, that with his attitude and actions that he is on his way to Hell (assuming that he dies and is not in the state of grace, and is unrepentant for these sins). This is Catholic teaching. The charitable thing to do, is to pray, pray, and did I mention pray? The other charitable thing to do is to point out his sin, and to tell him of it.

Now, I really enjoyed listening to Father Corapi preach. His talks were inspiring. With what we know now, his talks were probably inspiring because he knew how bad Satan is and how bad sin is. When we have experience with something, we can talk about it more personally. I want to also point out how much good he did do for the Church before his sin was made public. Even though he may have been in mortal sin when he gave his talks this does not negate the truthfulness of those talks.

Pray for Father Corapi. Father Corapi, we miss you and want to see you return home.

Our Lady of Fatima, pray for us.

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