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Pedophilia and Sexual Orientation

Two and a half weeks ago, it was brought to my attention that out in California they are trying to define pedophilia or those that would prefer child sex, as an option of the individual, declaring that pedophilia is a sexual orientation, that its a choice or a sexual preference.

Be prepared because now that it is becoming considered a sexual orientation (or at least that is what they are trying to do) we will have to prepare ourselves as Catholics, Christians and really anybody that doesn’t want some pervert having sex with children, to fight this. We will need to be aware of what’s going on because now that this is considered a sex orientation in California, eventually legislation will progress in the country that will pave the way for the legalization of sexual encounters with anybody of any sex and any age. They’re going to use examples of 17 and 19 year olds who are having sex to tug at the heart strings, you know because 17 is so close to 18 as a perfect example why we need to lower the age of consent.

Now some people would say that I’m being extremely pessimistic in thinking that we’re going to start legalizing sex with young children but this is what happened with homosexuality. Way back when, probably in the 50’s or so, it was considered insanity if someone said they were a homosexual. If you were openly homosexual you were considered mentally unstable.

Eventually, they made it a “hey man, its okay if you are a man and want to have sex with a man, or if you have sex with a woman if you are a woman” and then we saw on television over the years that gay men and women were considered better than there straight counter part. They were smarter, funnier, better looking and overall just a better person. Then, many in this country began to support gay “marriage”, as gay “marriage” is now legal in 15 states. It is considered a “hate crime” to dislike homosexual behavior.

I want to make it very clear that this attitude is wrong. We are called to love the sinner and hate the sin. We are not identified based on what our sexuality is, and this is part of the problem. I am not defined for my heterosexuality. I am defined for the person I am. Everybody has struggles and temptations, even heterosexuals. There are many types of evil out there that are attacking them, such as pornography, masturbation, contraception, adultery and divorce to name a few. There are many other temptations, but these temptations and our sins DO NOT DEFINE US.

Unfortunately, we’re going to lose the war with same sex “marriage”. Within the next 5 years I predict that every single state in the country will have some form of legalized sodomy on the record. This is a great shame considering we were once a strong Christian country, but watch, when gay “marriage” is legalized, they will be shouting for the age of consent to be lowered to the point that even children of any age can be tricked into engaging in this act. They will be tricked because in our schools, they will be indoctrinated that “sex is normal, here’s a condom”. This is how the tricking will be done.

The proper role of sex is in a marriage, between a man and woman, husband and wife, to create a family. Yes, there is the enjoyment aspect, but it isn’t purely for enjoyment. This secondary reason is to create unity between a husband and his wife. It creates love. It cements the commitment that they made on their wedding day. The purpose of sex, is to bond a husband and wife, to make children.

We can thank those who are in power and should know right from wrong. And I’m talking about the bishops and the cardinals who would rather be popular and hip and “with it” in regards to society, the secular media for not standing up to the truth. and now seeing the evils of homosexual behavior as a whole and how its seeped its way into the mainstream of this country for the last 30 or 40 years.

Before gay ‘marriage’ is finally legalized, we will see a call for legalizing pedophilia. It’s only the logical next-step. Brace yourself, we’re in for a bumpy ride.

Jeff November 14, 2013 2 Comments Permalink

The 5 Love Languages

During my marriage preparation classes, my priest told me and my now wife about the 5 Love Languages. He advised us that we should take the quiz, and that way we can learn more about ourselves, and how to interact with each other. And let me tell you, it has worked wonders for our marriage.

The 5 Love Languages is based on the research of Dr. Gary Chapman. What are the 5 Love Languages you ask? Words of Affirmation, Quality Time, Receiving Gifts, Acts of Service and Physical Touch. Each category describes the way in which we most feel loved.

Words of Affirmation is basically anything that would be a compliment, such as “I Love you”, “You look beautiful”, or “I’m really proud of you!”. Basically saying nice things.

Receiving Gifts can be as simple as a note from you spouse, a surprise candy bar or even just little surprises left around the house.

Acts of Service would be running errands for your spouse, doing chores that your spouse doesn’t like to do or other similar things.

Quality Time obviously would be spending time with the other and physical touch can range all over the place.

Each one of us has a primary and a secondary love language. The primary language is what fills up your “love tank” faster, but the secondary love language will also fill up said “love tank”. Knowing what fills up your love tank will help you feel more loved by your spouse when they do those activities. This also works vice versa, you need to do those things that make your spouse feel loved.

Now, this has helped my wife and I to understand each other, and it’s great how it has helped our marriage. For example, after knowing each other’s love languages, we know that when it comes to arguing what not to do. My wife’s primary love language is Words of Affirmation, so when we argue, I can’t fall into the temptation of calling her names, as that will devastate her. We shouldn’t be calling each other names regardless of our love language, but I am now more aware of it.

As society continually tries to push gay “marriage” and to undermine that of traditional marriage, we need to create strong marriages. I feel that knowing your spouse’s primary and secondary love language will do just that.

When you feel loved, you want to share that love. The powers of love can not be held within our own human person, as we are creatures of finite space and possibility, love, in itself, is infinite. This is the reason why when it comes to creating our priorities, no human person, even if it be our husband or wife or children or anybody, should be our number one.

As humans, we only have a finite space to fill with love, though, we have an infinite ability to give love. When we put all of our love into another person, we will crush them. However, the love for God, that is, the love that God gives to us, we can receive, even though it is infinite, because God created us to be able to receive that love that He gives. God, being infinite, can also receive that infinite love that we can give. Thus, it would make perfect sense to love God before all others.

You can purchase The 5 Love Languages at Amazon. You can also find out what your love language is by taking the test here.

Jeff October 3, 2013 Leave A Comment Permalink

Monthly Spiritual Examination

I’m trying something new out within my prayer life. I always am wanting to have prayer intentions as well as people to pray for, but I can never seem to remember everyone I should be praying for. Its frustrating for me.

So, last night, I sat down with pencil and paper, and began to write down people to pray for. I broke it down into several categories:

Mass Intentions
People to Pray For
Rosary Intentions (per decade)
Divine Mercy Chaplet Intentions (per decade)
My Prayer Life

For Mass Intentions, I do my best to rotate different people or other intentions so that I am not offering up the same intentions every week. There are 3 intentions that I do repeat, and I grab 3 intentions off the top of that list and send them back to the bottom. The 3 intentions I always offer up are 1. For Souls in Purgatory. They need prayers, and the offering up of Mass for them is quite possibly the best prayers we can say for them. 2. Myself and my fiance’s relationship. I feel this is important as it is the most important human relationship I can have. If our relationship goes south, that is never ever good. 3. Pope Benedict, my bishop and all the priests that I know. I feel this is self explanatory.

In people I should pray for, these are all my friends, family, acquaintances, co-workers, and anyone else I feel like praying for that has a place in my life. This will be a long list, and it seems to only grow, not get smaller. Sometimes I wish it shrunk, but I have to think of all the importance these people have played in my life at some point.

I offer up each decade of both the Rosary as well as the Divine Mercy Chaplet to someone or group of people that are possibly the most important in my life. For example, the first decade of the Rosary goes to myself, as I need prayers, the second decade goes to my fiance, fourth decade goes to my family and my fiance’s family, and so forth. I have rotated who each decade has gone for a lot, but it started off that I had difficulty finding people to pray for at first, and now, I have to group it up just to cover everyone that I want my Rosary offered up for.

Finally, my prayer life. This is the most important part of each and every single one of our lives. Its important to figure out how you are going to give your time to God each day/week/month and to stick with it. The problem I am having is that at one time I was doing a LOT on a daily basis, and now I don’t do as much. It frustrates me, but I try to load myself up like I did, I do it for several days and then I give up because its too much. I need to rebuild myself, but my pride wants me to load up everything I had. So…I have come up with a list of what I need to do on a daily and weekly basis.

Now, keep in mind, that each one of us will have a different list. Not to mention, you can change it however you want, you don’t have to do it verbatim like I am, this is what I’ve discerned that I need to do. Now, my plan is to keep track daily of what I have done and not done. In a month, I will do my examination again, to find out what I did well on and what I didn’t do well on. If it turns out that I’m failing on 2 things, then next month I will be forced to drop one. If I have done everything daily/weekly, then it might be time to add another item. Start off slow. If you aren’t doing anything right now, pick one thing and do that for a month. After a month, add something else.

Morning Prayer/Reflection (Daily)
Divine Mercy Chaplet (Daily at 3PM)
Rosary (Daily w. Fiance)
Examination of Conscience (Daily before Bed)
Night Prayer (Daily before Bed)
Eucharistic Adoration (Weekly)
Bible Reading (Weekly/ Sat/Sun)

So, starting today, I will start checking everything off. In a month, I will see how I’m doing. Give it a try! I think this will be a good way to start good habits in prayer and your relationship with God will grow immensely.

Jeff June 12, 2012 2 Comments Permalink

Living Life for Our Father

I was in Adoration with the Lord last night and I will say that it was a rather amazing experience, as it usually is. This time however, I experienced a new way of putting God first in my life.

Let us think of it this way. Jesus is the Ultimate Father and we should live our lives according to His commandments along with any other direction He gives us. We should not do something because of an individual in our lives, but more or less for Him. Yet, for some of us, including myself, it is difficult to put that into perspective. What I mean is, it is far easier to do something when there is a physical being in front of us and we can see their emotions based on their actions.

When we sin, we upset God, it is basic doctrine and understanding. When we do this, we can go to confession and be forgiven if we are sincere in our apology. This makes it also difficult because God, as easily as He is offended by our sin, He is also as easily ready to forgive us and forget our sins. When we have a physical person there, we see the long-term effects of that sin, no matter how grave or venial they may be.

Going with this philosophy, let us now think of it this way. Speaking from a man’s point of view, when I am ready to venture on into the Sacrament of Marriage, I must first ask permission of my ladies father. I must have earned his respect and demonstrated that I am perfectly able to take her into my home and love her as she deserves and be able to raise a family with her. In order to have gotten his approval I would have had to show him that I am mature and responsible enough to have gotten this far.

While this is a good way to demonstrate how we should act when trying to pursue into this intimate relationship, it doesn’t work all the time. What about when her father isn’t around? What about when she isn’t around? One must behave maturely at all times, not just when certain people are around.

Since Jesus as I mentioned earlier is the Ultimate Father, He IS her Father. With this mindset, it does not matter what state in the dating/courtship/marriage process we are in. Since we must always be showing our love for God in our entirety, we should think of trying to prove our worth to Him. He knows who we are going to end up with, and thus, we should always be proving our love as well as our maturity to Him.

If we are indeed proving ourselves to Jesus, we know that we are showing our love to Him, which will only allow us to open ourselves up to loving others as we should love ourselves. When we show God that we are willing to put Him before anything else, we are being loving and following in Christ’s footsteps. We are indeed being Christian.

This should be our inspiration. When we look at God as Father of our future spouse, we can be more willing to be able to live our lives the way that God had intended.

For women, it is a slightly different analogy. You don’t have to ask permission of your future husband’s father in order to marry him. But, at the same time, you want to be able to make an impression on his father to know that his son will be marrying an amazing woman who will be a loving wife to his son as well as an amazing mother to his grandchildren. Jesus IS your future husband’s Father.

This idea is such a good motivation for living a good Christian life. This is how Jesus wants us to be, it is a good mentality to have when trying to live your life set in the footsteps of the Only Son of Our Lord. You are not living your life this way because you are being forced, but rather, so that you are proving that you can live your life in a way that will be respectful for your future spouse, in all that you do, inspired by God. He is the Supreme Father and showing that you have put Him in your life first, as well as doing all that you can to impress Him by obeying Him you are setting yourself up for whomever He has set aside for you.

May God bless you on this wonderful day.

Sacred Heart of Jesus, Have Mercy on Us
Immaculate Heart of Mary, Pray for Us
St. Joseph, Most Chaste Spouse of Mary, Pray for Us

Jeff August 7, 2008 Leave A Comment Permalink

Total Faith in the Lord

One must always have total faith in the Lord. We should trust that He will provide for us no matter what He has planned for us. Whether we are looking for a job, looking for a relationship, discerning what to do with our lives, we should have complete, total, loving trust in Jesus Christ, Son of the Father, Sender of the Holy Spirit.

God created us in His image and likeness (Gen 1:27). He loves us in His Whole Being. He has everything planned out for us. Yet, so many people try to do it the hard way, their way. God may have given us a free will to do whatever we please, but in the end, He alone determines what will happen in our lives.

When we worry, we are causing Him pain. Why is this? Because, He knows that in the long run we will be happy, yet, we do not trust, we do not believe.

We live in a society where one must accomplish his or her own goals by themselves. There is no mention of faith. There is no mention of God anymore without being ridiculed or shunned. But, that is what we are faced with. Those who do believe in God have felt His presence, and will not ignore it. It is our own particular cross to bare, and we share it with the Lord.

Now, we know that God has everything planned. The best thing we do is to pray for the virtue of patience as we wait for God’s Divine Plan to unravel before our eyes. Sometimes it takes longer than we want, but again, it is not what we want, but what God wants.

Total trust in the Lord will bring us happiness. When we tell God everything that is going on in our lives, He listens, He knows. He will bring total happiness as long as we give Him our lives and allow Him to work with us and to mold us into the person that He wants us to be.

God will provide the job, the relationship, the happiness that you are looking for. But He wants you to trust in Him. I am sure that there have been times when you have said “God, if ____ happens I will do _____”. He has shown you that He is there for you, but did you keep that promise? Maybe you are having difficulties fulfilling that promise, but, He knows your struggles, and those are the same things you can bring to Him in prayer.

May God bless you.

St. Grimbald, Pray for Us!

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